Terminology. Divorce. Social Skills. Stuff.

(Post may or may not make sense, I have an intense headache).

There are two terms that I am sick of hearing and/or reading about.

1. Single again
2. Unequal (or unequally) yokes (or yoked)

I've also been reading the blogs at Boundless, particularly a post about the age old excuse "I Just Haven't Found the Right One" . It reminds me of how I used to think, that divorce would never happen to me. It's a rather self righteous view of thinking. I do think that there are people (I was one of them) who look down on those that are divorced as somehow less deserving or more sinful than they are. I wish divorce didn't happen, I wish it never occurred. Many people have said that they think God hates divorce because it illustrates a relationship of Christ and the church. I think that God hates divorce because it hurts. It hurts more than you can possibly imagine, and can only begin to understand if you have gone through it.

One thing I am grateful for is that the righteous on this (Boundless) blog refuse to date us divorced people. I would think that if they did date a divorce person, or marry them, that it would be something that they would hang over their head or use against them. I could go on and on and on regarding this topic, but I won't tonight!

I didn't plan on taking the new round of DivorceCare classes (they are about 13 weeks), but we had two new people come last week, including a girl who is my age or older. I feel kind of idiotic (ok, stupid & clueless), because I've been praying all along that God would let me use my pain and experience to help others. The pastor's wife sat next to me on Wed. night and asked if I was taking the next round of classes. I said that I hadn't planned on it. She sounded kind of surprised and upset, and said that she was going to introduce me to a lady who would be participating, but instead she's just introduce them to the facilitators. Yesterday it hit me. I can still be a support to the other girls even though I'm focusing more on the future, and less on the past. I went through DivorceCare more or less on my own. It was mostly me and the facilitators. Which is ok, you just don't get as many different opinions or new friends, etc.

Wed. was not a good day for me. I realized that I am horrible at being social and somebody should offer a class on how to interact with people. I've never been great at it, but it's like I'm completely clueless now. I "abandoned" a new acquaintance Wed. night because I was too clueless to get the hint that he didn't want to go to one of the Bible studies on his own and/or wasn't sure what he should pick. (Our mutual, more outgoing friends, weren't there.) It hit me about five minutes later.